10 Dates at home to do after the kids go to bed
Let’s be real—between diapers, dishes, and “Mommmm, I need you!”, finding time for your marriage can feel nearly impossible. But you don’t need a fancy dinner or a babysitter to reconnect. Sometimes, the sweetest moments happen after the kids are finally asleep and the house is (somewhat) quiet.
Bryton and I have been together for 7 years. Ups and downs have definitely happened, but trust me, we have found out how to communicate better and kept the spark alive was through spending time together.
When the kids are grown and gone, it will be you two. You need to like each other. You want to enjoy retirement being in love and having fun not fighting.
It is a beautiful thing to make your home your safe space, so why not make it your date space too.
Here are 10 simple, creative, and meaningful at-home date night ideas you can enjoy without ever leaving your front door.
1. Cook Something New Together
Skip takeout and try something new in the kitchen. Make sushi, homemade pizza, or even just a fancy charcuterie board. Cooking together sparks connection—and laughter when things go wrong!
2. Themed Movie Night
Pick a theme—rom-coms, 90s favorites, or a series you’ve never finished—and make it special. Add your favorite snacks, cozy blankets, and no phones allowed.
I LOVE popcorn, so when we have a movie date night or a family movie day, I am air popping popcorn.
Watching it pop is so fun and adding all the different options of flavors to the popcorn to change it up.
These air poppers are so cute and I love to have air popped popcorn. Linked here! Enjoy!!!
3. String Lights & Snacks Patio Night
Hang some string lights, grab a blanket and a snack tray, and head to the porch or patio. Even a small outdoor space can feel magical when it’s quiet, intentional, and kid-free. Bonus points for soft music and sparkling water (or wine!).
4. Couples Q&A or Conversation Cards
Pull out some deep or silly conversation starters and take turns asking questions. You’ll laugh, connect, and maybe even discover something new about each other.
5. DIY Wine, Tea, or Coffee Tasting
Try a few new varieties of wine, herbal teas, or coffee blends. Pair with a little cheese, chocolate, or fruit. Make a scorecard for fun!
I am actually allergic to coffee so I drink a lot of tea instead, I personally buy these sample sets, see what I like and then buy more of my favorite.
This is a good set to try out, I love love love the ZEN flavor. It is so refreshing.
6. Board Game or Card Game Night
Break out your favorite two-player games like Rummikub, Yahtzee, or even a video game you both love. The friendly competition brings out the best in you.
Byrto and I love to play Spite Malice together, its a game his grandparents played. They were married 50+ years.
7. Cozy Couch Concert
Queue up a live concert on YouTube (bonus if it’s a band you loved in high school), dim the lights, and enjoy a mini “concert” from your couch. Sing along or just relax—no babysitter needed.
Bryton and I just laughing at something.
8. Take an Online Class Together
Try a painting tutorial, cooking lesson, or even a couple’s quiz night on YouTube. You’ll learn something new and make memories in the process.
9. Dream Planning Session
Sit down with a notebook and talk about your goals, dreams, and future plans—whether it’s a vacation, financial goals, or your dream home. Vision board optional, laughs guaranteed.
10. Home Spa Night
Light a candle/diffuser, put on a calming playlist, and take turns giving each other hand or foot massages. Add in face masks and a fancy skin regime.
Final Thoughts
Intentional time with your spouse doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate. Sometimes the best date nights are the ones that simply give you space to laugh, dream, and connect again—without ever leaving your home.
Which one are you trying this week?